South Carolina's governor, Mark Sanford, has been much in the news lately as he has talked widely about his adultery and the state of his marriage to Jennifer Sullivan Stanford, his wife of twenty years. Jenny has said she can forgive him if he's willing to return to their marriage and work on it; he has said he wants to do that.
How can these two, caught up in such a public situation, best move to work on their marriage? According to news reports, they've already tried counseling. Perhaps it's time for them to try a new approach--marital mediation.
Laurie Israel, a mediator in Boston, has written an article that gives a good description of how marital mediation works.
If you're considering divorce, especially if you and your spouse have children, ask someone who's been divorced for ten years or more whether they'd choose to do it again. Most will say they wish they'd worked harder to stay married. Raising children in two households is harder and much more complex than doing so in one household.
If your marriage is in trouble, consider marital mediation as a first option.
Thursday, July 9, 2009
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